It's almost New Year and while we're all busy with last minute preparations and shopping, one woman received a devastating letter with the potential to shake up her life. In a post to UK's BabyCentre, the woman asked for help after she received a letter in the mail telling her that her partner of two years is cheating on her.
The anonymous letter, which claimed to have been sent by her boyfriend's co-worker, also said he's got a Tinder profile and another profile on a dating site. "We just moved in together and we've done up my house, rented out his and literally just got a dog," she says.
"It's Christmas. Our 'anniversary' is Christmas day. I'm distraught." "My question is what can I do about the letter?" In subsequent comments, the woman admits that she may be "clutching at straws", but is hoping the letter may be a joke or someone trying to break them up.
"Why would he do it though, why rent out his house, spend ages doing up my house (new kitchen, plumbing etc) sell all his furniture… I just don't get it," she says. "I found the dating profile and it is him but the photos are old. The letter also said he stopped using it a while ago. If I confront him with it he will deny it I'm sure and say it's a joke - could it be a joke?
"I don't think that any of his colleagues would send the letter - it's only a small team and he could easily confront them all individually." It's certainly a dilemma. If she's worried there's not enough evidence to confront him, should she do it anyway?
According to Sydney-based clinical psychologist Stephanie Allen, the best thing a person who thinks their partner may be cheating should do is take some time and decide how they want to proceed. Allen says ending the relationship may be the right choice, but it's important to know that it's a "carefully thought out decision".